You may have noticed I have been absent, of late. In the last month, I have resigned from a company at which I worked for ten years, packed up my stuff and my baby’s stuff, rented a U-Haul and taken several trips in my loaded Escape, as well, and moved five hours north to the location of my graduate school! I started classes two weeks ago, and have been living between two distant cities for two weeks. With a three year old lol.
I thought I could do it all, and keep blogging regularly. Turns out I couldn’t, but I’m back! Tonight I’ll talk about a blood test that may be able to predict whether you’re at risk for postpartum depression. This is excellent news, and I’ll tell you why. Come on back for that!
In the meantime, my daughter and I are getting settled into our new, adorable home, and I am figuring out this new life of mine, as a mom and as an individual.
As you might expect, this move has not occurred without the occasional stumble.
In several shows at Pea in the Podcast, I talk about the importance of having a support system. Every mom needs one. Whether it’s your family, a close circle of friends, or one you create through mommy groups, people you hire like postpartum doulas, or your local baby yoga class, a support system is essential.
I don’t really have one yet in North Texas.
So on Monday, as I prepared to go to class and leave my daughter with her father’s cousin (for the first time) I heard the sad news that her sister’s husband had died. She would — of course — be with her. But was was I to do with my baby? I immediately decided I would bring her to class with me. After all, I’m getting my Master’s in Child Development! Why would they mind a three year old in the room lol?
Thankfully, though, my daughter’s father had a friend — who also knew my daughter — who was willing and able to watch her.
Support system building begins! We’re having lunch tomorrow.
On a side note, I got very lost trying to find her house, and was late for class lol. Ah, the joys of living in an unfamiliar city! Oh, and the joy of being me. I get lost just about every time I get in the car. It’s sad, but true.
I was concerned that this move would be hard on my daughter. She’s already experienced the separation and divorce of her father and mother. So as we went to look for apartments, I explained that she would get to pick our new home. I liked our first choice, and so did she, so I asked if she picked it. She said yes, and for the next several weeks told everyone, gleefully, she had picked our new home, and did a good job, because mommy loved it. She’s still thrilled that she “picked” our home.
One day my daughter asked why we were doing this…this move. I said, simply, mommy wanted to spend more time with her girl, so she was going back to school to do something she loved. She thought about it for just a second, then said…
“That sounds like a good idea.”
That sounds like a good idea. Since the moment I conceived it, it sounded like a good idea to me, too. A good idea for me, and most importantly, a good idea that would improve and enrich the life of my daughter, Aidan Kate.
If you have an idea that you think might make you a happier and more fulfilled mommy, go for it! A happy mother is more in tune with her kids, and her kids are happier, too.
So now I’m settled in a ready to get back to blogging. Yay!
And remember, you beautiful moms-to-be, your pregnancy week-by-week audio shows are up at Pea in the Podcast. Dr. Laurie Swaim and I accompany you on your pregnancy journey, updating you week by week on what’s going on with your body and your baby.
You can also listen to a variety of podcasts about your pregnancy, preparing for your baby, and what you need to know to be ready when your miracle arrives.